By Brian Michaelson
“You are only punishing yourself when you want to be in a relationship with a woman more than she wants to be in a relationship with you.” ― David Deida,
Most of the guys who come to me for coaching have an element of neediness. At some level, they believe that if they had a woman and in some cases a specific woman, that their lives would be better.
Making a woman responsible for your own happiness in life is a heavy burden for her to carry.
The way masculine and feminine polarity work is that the masculine seeks freedom and the feminine wants to trap that which is free. When you are trying so desperately to curtail her sense of freedom, the attraction process is working against you. She will be forced into her masculine and she will seek freedom and space from the repulsion of your clinginess.
In his book “The Way of the Superior Man”, David Deida says “Once she feels your neediness, once she feels that you need her more than she needs you, she will never trust your masculine core… the poles have become reversed, with your feminine desire for love meeting her masculine desire for freedom”.
In my coaching courses, I teach men to test her level of interest in wanting to continue an interaction with you. Instead of pursuing unavailable women, I suggest they look for the open doors and celebrate the women who are already expressing high interest in wanting to be with them.
If she is consistently showing signs of low interest in wanting to be with you then I suggest you cease pursuing her and move on. There are more than enough women out there who are waiting to experience your masculine presence.
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